Thursday, July 23, 2009

Singe your fingers...

What a cheesy title to a blog entry but who cares. In any case I’d been meaning to write a blog about one thing or another for the past 3ish weeks and didn’t end up happening until now. It’s interesting how even when I want to write a blog at times, I don’t end up doing it until its “meant to be” complete.

A couple weeks back when I had that patient with the hemorrhagic stroke (last blog entry) a friend and I were talking about the effect of traumatic and challenging events on people’s life… more specifically the metamorphosis that these events induce. Obviously in my case, the traumatic event was my father’s death. When I had my father in my life, I never really took to any of his lessons that he had taught me. It wasn’t until after his death that everything started to catch on. Prior to his passing I would know what was right and wrong but, would still do as I please… which usually ended up being wrong (not to say I was a devil child, I was just hormonal and slightly retarded). It wasn’t until my dad passed that all his lessons suddenly began stick.

After continuing to back and forth about the matter, I finally had a good metaphor come to me (shocking, as usually my metaphors suck). I've realized that in essence, everyone is a candle. And it is through these traumatic events that the candle is lit, and with that flame the individual is able to grow exponentially. Obviously there are those that do not deal with those events well at all and end up regressing. From my experience I have learned that these people generally based many of their actions on fear prior to having the event. Then once the event occurred and they were pushed further into a hole all they have left is fear… and we all know where there is fear, there is no faith...

And so I will leave you with a quote from Imam Ali (a.s.) regarding faith in God and ourselves.
Your remedy is within you, but you do not sense it.
Your sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it.
You presume you are a small entity,
But within you is enfolded the entire universe.
You are indeed the evident book,
By whose alphabet the hidden becomes the manifest.
Therefore, you have no needs beyond yourself,
What you seek is within you, if only you reflect.
- Ali Ibn' Abi Talib (A.S.)

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Gravity.

Hello boys and girls. I hope you all are doing well and if you’re not - go see a doctor. Speaking of doctors I’ve been working about 36 hours a week (not sure if I included that in the last post but if so then you just read it again, punk) and I’ve been learning a lot as usual (most importantly not just about medicine/nursing, but spiritually). About a week or two ago I all of a sudden had reached a new level in setting up IV’s. I was just a straight beast and as much as I hate arrogance/cockiness ESPECIALLY from myself it had gotten to my head.

Now for the past week I have established one IV linev. That’s just a little something to learn from but there’s more. Earlier today we had a code come in and we were able to save her. This happened to be the first code in the ER that I was there to watch live. Indeed a very nice experience.

A couple hours after that we had a patient who exhibited signs of a stroke upon arrival to the ER. At the Bon, we don’t have the facilities to treat stroke victims. This patient was brought to us in error and really shouldn’t have been there – possible stroke victims are taken to UM. In any case the patient was decently responsive when he first came and throughout the course of the next few hours I watched him slowly decline. For those of you all interested – it was a hemorrhagic stroke in his brain stem. We were trying to get him transferred as throughout the entire time. Long story much shorter, there was a lot of red tape to cross and it really slowed down the entire process which shouldn’t have even had to take place because the EMS should have taken the patient to UM. I think the experience I had today with this case was one of the saddest cases I watched unfold before my eyes. I eventually had to remove my self from the situation because I was so upset. This normally never happens because I’m able to control my self but watching the patient’s health decline right before me was maddening… even more so was knowing that I couldn’t do anything about it. As change of shift came around there were no developments – I will just have to wait till I work next to figure out what happened.
On my way back home I was still very upset and it looked like there was a huge storm coming. I don’t recall seeing such dark skies in a very long time. As I continued to think of what had just happened I saw the sun break right through the clouds in magnificent showing. It really made me think of the entire situation from a different, worldlier perspective. Something in my heart told me that there Gravity effects everyone.

So simple, yet so profound. Often times the lesson is put right in front of us and we choose to ignore it and so it’s spat right back in our face until we truly learn from it.

Monday, June 22, 2009

Pop pop's day.

So it’s 2 am the day after Father’s day and I’m sitting at my kitchen table in my PJ’s with milk, cookies, and my laptop. Since my last blog 6 years ago, I’ve started picking up about 3 shifts a week at work, (12 hours each) today was one of my workdays. Work has been going very well, learning something new everyday (as usual) and it doesn’t hurt that making people laugh and healing never gets old.

Throughout the day people were asking me if I was a father… apparently I look 34. Anyway, the ER was rather slow and the weather was exceptional so I decided to go eat lunch in the courtyard with 75-degree weather and a nice calm breeze (the courtyard is a completely enclosed area with several benches and a nice little grass area that only employees have access to). After eating my lunch I started thinking more about my father and his impact on my life. I realized that I probably wouldn’t have cared anywhere as much for people in general like I do now had it not been for him. This means that I probably wouldn’t have gone into health care. And for those of you mistakenly call me your friends, probably wouldn’t.

After realizing how much I had gained and continue to gain from having had my father for a [huge] part of my life, I realized the sad fate that so many children share- not having their fathers in their lives. This is a sad reality and really makes me wonder how these children miss out on so much. However, inevitably they have or will become stronger from it.

Appreciating my father(and all those around the world that choose to be a part of their children’s lives) today has helped me realize that we should all try to help out those without a father figure in their lives so that they may grow up to become the father that they never had.

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Shook.

A couple weeks ago I was talking to a good friend of mine and we exchanged our usual hellos and then she told me something, which stopped me dead in my tracks. Telling me that a 7-year-old niece of hers has cancer in her brain stem… the doctors explained that she has 6 months left to live.

How do you deal with that? I just thought of Sumaa who is now 8 and I still look at her like my little baby. I would have thought that I wouldn’t have much of a problem dealing with death since I’ve dealt with it so often over the past couple years. I thought about how I got over those deaths, but that doesn’t even apply here… this child is more alive than anyone.
Are you supposed to treat her any differently? How?

I have seen several people code (and die) in the ER, it puts some wear and tear on me even though I don’t know them but generally speaking I’ve found a way to cope. It was completely different when my father or grandfather passed because I knew them. I never even met this girl (or I don’t remember meeting her) and I started to crack.

There is no one answer as to how to deal with this situation but as weird as it sounds, I’ve been watching my own behavior. I’ve noticed that I mentally put my self in many sad or depressing situations and then find then beauty in it. I did just that in this situation. The thing is I don’t do it consciously, I’ve just work this way with out even thinking. The beauty of this incredibly sad situation is that this girl at this very moment is the definition of life. One of the most important keys to life is to live it, not to have lived it or hope to live it, but to live it at this very moment. I keep thinking about this verse from one of my favorite poems…

In a child's first year it’s in search of its 5th year,
In its child's 10th' year its in search of its 16th year,
In its 5th its year its in search of its 25th year,
And when its dead, its in search of its life.
So why should it not be in search of now?
You don't even have to search for now,
Now is here.
Has now used and abused you?
Maybe Now loves you and doesn't want to lose you.
What if something accused you of not being good enough when it just met you?
You hardly know now,
The same way you desire then, now;
You will desire now, then.
So it seems you are searching for what is present.
-Amir Sulaiman

Just last night I was at Wall-Mart where I saw a guy who had the same disease process as my father. I actually had met him at Pizza Roma’s and my brothers and I talked to him there. I was so shook when I saw him because he was a spitting image of my father. It had been about 4 months since I had seen him and this time it shook me just as bad. For the entire 5 minutes that I was talking to him my eyes were ready to burst. It’s so weird because his mannerisms and the way he talked were so similar to my father (or maybe I was just deliriously imagining things). In any case, I was thinking to my self about this mans life. He is 49 (or 43 I’m not sure) years old and with that disease process the person is basically sitting on a ticking time-bomb, waiting for their aorta to have a full-blown aneurysm. I’m sure he was aware for it but he was so soft spoken and relaxed in his speech. It made me think more and more about his life and obviously my fathers with it. What if I were in that situation? Would I be able to handle that process in the same elegant manner that he has? The more I thought about it the more I came to the conclusion that even if he was not as relaxed an individual before he must have become so very quickly after realizing the gravity of the situation.

Knowing that you’re liable to die at any moment (as we all are, however in this case it has a very high morbidity rate especially at his age) is one of the most humbling experiences. It felt very weird saying that but it’s true. He is able to grow so much on a spiritual level on a constant basis because of the fact that he has to deal with this burden on daily basis.

The main point is, even though it hurts like hell to have to deal with such burdens in our life, they are truly blessings. Its because of those burdens, obstacles and hardships that allow us to live and grow as people.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Adam lives in theory

They reminisce over you.
At my clinical the other day I had a patient who had an array of psychosocial issues; stemming from drug abuse and her need to get clean. She had a history of several different drugs, as did her husband. The couple then enlisted in a methadone program to help get clean; unfortunately her husband was not able to give up his addiction to alcohol while on the methadone program. With methadone on board, alcohol will kill a person. Her whole situation was an impetus for me to reflect for a moment about my own life.

How come I didn’t get into drugs or alcohol? I thought about how vital the role of my family was in my development. I am blessed to have been presented the opportunities that I have had. I can take this experience back to the Bon, so many patients that I’ve worked with have a history of drug and alcohol abuse, venereal diseases, etc. Many of these people who do or did drugs were hooked by their own family members. I remember one patient telling me that he starting using crack at 11 because his uncle stuck him. Last I saw him he was 33 with Hep. C and I think HIV but I’m not sure about the latter. By the same hand there are those people who want to get out and ‘try something’ and this is where our free will comes in. I can not say that the only reason I never did drugs was because of one specific factor but it all by the grace of God that I stayed clean.

While were on the topic of reflecting on our blessings lets focus on our current behaviors as well and how we can grow through reflection. If we do not reflect on our own behavior we will never try to correct our wrong doings (don’t try to say your perfect, cause I’ll kick you in the face, with love ☺). How are we going to know how our behavior affects others unless we reflect?

“Reflect on what has passed of this world. Has any of it remained for anyone? Has anyone remained in it, be he noble or lowly, rich or poor, friend or enemy? Similarly, what remains of it that does not resemble the past less than water resembles water. The Messenger of Allah said, 'Death is enough of a warning; the intellect is enough of a guide; precaution is enough of a provision; worship is enough of an occupation; Allah is sufficient as an intimate friend; the Qur'an is enough of a clarification.' And elsewhere, 'Only affliction and trial remain of this world. If a person is saved, it is only by sincerely seeking refuge.' And Noah said, 'I found this world to be like a house with two doors. I entered through one of them and went out through the other.' Such is the state of the one who was saved by Allah: so what is the state of one who feels at ease in this world, relies on it, wastes his life by cultivating it, and is full of worldly demands?”
-Imam Jafar Sadiq

It is through being objective while scrutinizing our own behavior through which we can go on and adapt better behavior (unless of course your perfect). This also relates back to the ego post I had a little ways back. If are not completely objective in our reflection, then the benefits of reflection will be greatly decreased. Separate yourself from ‘you’ and you will be on your way. Realize that this body is not really you but just a shell.

Another point I want to bring up is regarding our current actions and their direct effect on the present situations that we may be in. How can your action facilitate growth, and/or benefit someone or yourself? Obviously we will never know how our actions will completely play out but to some extent we can use our intuition to see the benefit or disfavor of our actions. The most obvious example that we all see day in and day out is “Insert name here is such a adjective of choice.” Sure, this maybe completely true, but how is saying that going to help anyone? If anything it will only exacerbate the current situation. Figure out a way you can bring up this topic with that individual with whom you are having the problem with without being aggressive or rude. It is important to be HONEST and RESPECTFUL, simultaneously. If you are only honest, then you will come off as a prick. If you are only respectful, you will be a pushover.

So tonight, while you lay in bed before you sleep, reflect about all the things that you could have done better. Remember, this is not regret-this is reflection. I’ll leave you with one of my favorite songs from Lauryn Hill called Adam Lives in Theory. It talks about the whole of humanity without any exception…
Take care homies.

Monday, February 16, 2009

Are you God conscious? 'Yeah, I go to the _______.'

So I have been doing a lot of thinking [shocker] after Brother Shiekh Abbas Virgee came to our masjid; specific to his lecture on Taqwa. For those of you who are not familiar with the concept Taqwa is being God-conscious. So one may think, "Okay, I believe in God, so obviously I'm performing Taqwa… but it goes much deeper than that. What does it mean to be conscious of God... to know that He is watching you. Now I feel that some may take this as “We need to be afraid of God”, but I look at it completely the opposite. I see it as yet another means to help build you’re relationship with God.

If we are ever in the middle of an unjust act and all of a sudden we think, “God is watching me” it will have some effect or another on us. I for one will definitely be stopped cold in the middle of whatever I was doing. Although that is a good thing, we shouldn’t be basing our relationship with God on fear. To base ones faith on a fear of God is a paradox. Where there is fear there is no faith. In order to really grasp Taqwa we must understand that our relationship with God should comprise of love and trust…

The love for God is where we are able to excel in our spiritual growth. Think for a moment, if our heart is not filled with love for God, then it is the playground for hate(work of the devil). This entire creation comes from God and when He created these things he instills in them a piece of him self. So if we really want to love God, we must learn to love His creation. Sounds simple enough, but it gets pretty hard. How do you love that person that stands for everything that you feel is wrong? How do you love that person who is always trying to find a way to put you down? That is jihad. That is love.

“For real Akbar… what the heck are you talking about? How are you supposed to love someone who just smacked you across the face?”

We are able to do this by being able to live in the present moment. This doesn’t mean that I won’t A) Stop him from doing it again OR B) Run. The thought is that we must live in the present moment and not let the past (albeit is only a few seconds ago) define us or what we are to do in the future. The only thing that we have is the present moment. You’re life will not be lived yesterday or lived tomorrow; it will only be lived right now. This is really opening a whole different can of worms that I will have to fiddle with later. (If this paragraph catches your interest I suggest you read this book called The Power of Now)

Throughout our lives we will come into situations where we will have the instinct to hate a person at one point or another. It is because of this that it is important to remember that we do not live here for this world but the next and by that it means that we are here to purify our souls. So often we will know what is right and what is wrong but we won’t go through with it. Our mind tells us to stay away from the bad act while our soul goes through and does whatever it pleases. The soul wants comfort and when the soul is uncomfortable is when its being purified. It is through the tough decisions in life that we are able to truly grow spiritually. My buddy 50 cent said it best “Sunny day’s wouldn’t be so special, if it wasn’t for rain.”… I don’t really like 50 that much incase you were wondering.

I will end with a quick synopsis about a incident that involved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). He used to travel through a road every day, and every day a lady would dump her garbage on him. He never said anything to her but he would still keep going about his way. One day there was no garbage dumped on the Prophet (PBUH), and so he decided to go check on the lady to make sure she was in good health. He went into her house to find that she was ill. She on the other hand was completely surprised that some person on whom she would dump her garbage on, came to check on her health.. This is the type of love we should all strive for, to love our fellow human beings in such a manner is a great goal to work to.

Take care and let me know what YOU think.

Sunday, February 1, 2009

And your point is?

It's not about a goal, its not about a specific point... it's about your purpose. Do you know what you're purpose in life is? Often time's people confuse all of these together, I know I used to all the time... The difference is that someone’s purpose takes on a spiritual meaning and is rather subjective, where as a goal is objective and is materialistic in nature. What I mean by materialistic isn’t necessarily about ‘bling’ or whatever, but rather something ‘worldly’.
The reason I bring up this topic is because we often define our 'life goals' as simply that... goals. What happens when you reach that goal and your still alive? Do you just sit around and try to think of another goal, which could possibly elude you for the rest of your life? I think it's important for everyone of us to know our purpose in life. A purpose is something that you can continuously work on which allows you to grow more in that aspect of your life. For example if you're purpose in life is to help people, you can make goals in accordance with that purpose. This allows you to grow continuously throughout you're life.
Now what if everyone knew their purpose? What if everyone would have a goal everyday working towards that point? I would like to think the world would be a different place. This is all presuming that everyone's purpose in life is to have a positive effect on the world- as no person casts themselves out to be a bad guy. In order to work towards our purpose in life we need to take little steps... after all, it's not like a purpose is something that can be complete, it is an on going process, that helps us purify ourselves.
On a side note; why don't we make a goal for our selves regardless of what you feel your purpose might be in life, to help at least one person every single day.

In any case school started this past week. I need to keep myself focused. My clinical is also at shock trauma so I’m really pumped it should be a great experience iA. I need to get back in the gym – I had problems with my left shoulder again where I would have crepitus whenever I raised it above my head. I had this problem junior year during lax season as well but I guess its back again unfortunately…
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